A year and a half ago Kel and I broke up with our pool guy. It was an unhealthy relationship. He came and spent 15 minutes at our pool and we had a dirty pool. This went on for a LONG time. Things kept breaking and we kept paying to fix them and still the pool was dirty.
I think we just stayed together so long as it was convenient. It was better to have a pool boy then to have people over and not have one. Even if our pool boy wasn't our dream, at least we had one.
Finally the difficult decision was made and we broke up over a nice Chianti. I wanted to text him, but Kel said it was better in person.
Since then it has been a struggle. At first we thought we'd find another pool boy right away, but to no avail. It is so hard to find a good pool boy now a days even with all of the tools at hand. There just no time and when you do meet someone, how do you know that the relationship will last. So we decided to go it alone.
We started to take pride that we didn't need a pool boy. We were "OK" on our own. When people would come over, we'd proudly show off how good we were doing and worked hard to demonstrate that we were holding it together just fine.
But underneath it all, the truth was, we really needed the support that a pool boy gives.
Our pool became as cloudy as our mood. We tried everything. We spoke to the pool, burned incense, had a priest out to exercise the demons, even went so far as to empty the pool and fill it back up again. But still, that deep feeling of need persisted.
Now I can report that we met a pool boy at of all places a card game. He is honest, hard working, of good humor and best of all talented in all the right things. We've only been dating for a short time but our mood is lifted and our pool is clearer.
We still have a long way to go to ensure that this relationship lasts, but we feel optimistic about our future.